HEY MIKE! I recently got dumped by a girl. I’ve tried getting over her, but it’s really hard. Now, I can’t even ask out a girl without feeling very, very nervous. How can I regain my confidence ?
— F.B., San Antonio
You’re not alone. I’ve received dozens of letters from guys who have been rejected by girls. Here’s what I’ve told them: Move on with your life. That’s the only thing you can do.
It’s okay to feel nervous around girls for a while — that’s normal. But don’t avoid them altogether. Try this: Put dating on hold for now, and focus on friendship. Give yourself time to heal.
As you know, being rejected by a girl chips away at a guy’s confidence. That’s why most of us would rather be flogged, quartered and burned at the stake than face rejection. (Trust me on this . . . I know from experience.)
So, how did I get through it?
I let God define my self-worth — not the status of having someone to date.
I let God be the source of my strength — especially when I’m weak.
I let God be the author of my dreams — from finding the right lady to developing my abilities.
Don’t force romantic expectations on every girl you meet. Instead, build friendships with the opposite sex. After all, marriage is probably many years down the road for you, if it’s God’s will for your life. 
