HEY MIKE! My girlfriend dumped me. Now she’s going out with my best friend, and both of them hate me. How can I deal with this?
—J.C., Wausau, Wis.
It’s hard enough being rejected by your girlfriend, but losing her to someone you trusted, then ending up on both their hate lists — OUCH!
I can’t give you a simple, quick fix to the pain you’re feeling right now; it’s very normal and very real. Besides, it’s not like you’re going to wake up tomorrow and tell yourself, “Rejection, pain, broken trust. Getting dumped is cool!”
The best way to deal with the hurt is (1) don’t deny it, and (2) ask God to show you something through it. Maybe He’ll reveal attitudes and behaviors in your life that He wants you to work on. This tough experience could even change the way you respond to future girlfriends, especially if you’re the “dump-er” instead of the “dump-ee.”
I don’t understand why this girl and your best friend have turned on you. (I’m sure there’s a lot I don’t know in this situation.) But the worst thing you can do is get stuck in anger or stop trusting others.
While people will let you down, God won’t. And when others slam you hard, our Savior is there to help you through the pain. Hebrews 13:5-6 gives you this promise: “God has said, ‘Never will I leave you; never will I forsake you.’ So we say with confidence, ‘The Lord is my helper; I will not be afraid. What can man do to me?’” 
